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So there was a report released this week about the dangers of spanking your children. In this report it was stated that studies from the last 50 years were analyzed and it was determined that spanking your children caused depression, violent behavior, etc. Let’s not take into account, for a moment, that there is no actual way to prove that given the THOUSANDS of other factors involved in raising a child. Let’s not take into account the fact that in order to even create an accurate experiment each variable, but the tested one, must be identical. So for such a thing each family tested would have to say, have the same values, the same upbringing, or the same way of parenting. Otherwise, the results would be completely all over the place. Alternately, let’s not take into account the fact that for thousands of years people have recognized the importance of truly training and rearing their children and no, spankings do not feel all comfortably fluffy and good, but can be effective. They are not supposed to feel fluffy. No, they are not the end-all be-all to successful parenting because again, there are other factors involved. The fact is, we (in our society) have gotten to a point where we want our kids to be comfortable and where we want to be liked by them at all times. We have caved in to their demands. We have let them scream in the store instead of putting the purchase down, walk them to the car, and tap that behind. We have gotten to the point where we cannot bare to be politically incorrect for fear of attack or judgement by others. We have reached the point where we are not truly REARING our children instead we are merely “raising” them. We have reached the point where, if it says it in the Bible, we instinctively RUN from it because we do not want to be seen as “religious fanatics” so we are [then] compelled to take God out of everything; forgetting that God is the reason we even have to right to choose what we do in the 1st place. As a result, we have reached the point where our society is in decline. We have reached the point where our society is in a decline of morality but on the rise to lawlessness. And where lawlessness is allowed to grow, anarchy is allowed to thrive. There is a guide book, however, on this issue and every other: the Bible. It is not very PC, mind you but take a look:
In Proverbs 13:24 it says,
“24Whoever spares the rod hates their children,
but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them.”
In Proverbs, it is spoken quite plainly when it says that a person who spares discipline HATES his children. Why? Because of Proverbs 22:15, “Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it FAR from him.” Children, because they are born into a sin-riddled and fallen world are prone to the selfishness and malfeasance that indoctrinates us upon birth; thus, they must be taught and trained in the way they should go and when they are trained [in love and wisdom] they will never depart from that way as they gain years (Proverbs 22:6). Proverbs 23:13-14 puts in another way. It says,
13Do not hold back discipline from the child, Although you strike him with the rod, he will not die.
14You shall strike him with the rod And rescue his soul from hell.
See, when a child does something wrong, we have gotten to the point where all we do is send them to their room, take something away, or even yell at them, but what does that accomplish? They will be angry with us and realize that they can do whatever they want without any real consequences and that is so dangerous. Dangerous because if that is their motive as a child, their motive as an adult will be the same and lead them to trouble and ruin. The truth of the matter is, when you spank your child out of love rather than anger and you teach them the undeniable value in doing what is right, you train them to be valuable members of society. You train them to know that there are negative consequences that come through doing wrong. You train them in such a way they will never forget. Love is the key; however, not retaliation. I was spanked as a child, by both parents. Yes, I HATED it. Nay, I LOATHED it as a child. However, as I became an adult I realized the unmistakable value in what I endured. I realized that my own decisions brought about that outcome. I learned how to have boundaries. I learned how to live honorably and above reproach. I know that without having had to endure the [temporary] pain and uncomfortableness of being spanked, I would NOT be the man I am today. My parents cared about me enough to endure the pain of seeing me in pain because they cared about rearing me. They sacrificed how they felt and how others may have viewed them because they KNEW it would save my life. I know that without that lesson, I would be right on my way to destruction. See, it is not spanking that causes people to be angry, depressed, violent, and self destructive. It is a society bent on removing the MOST CRUCIAL factor in the equation of human success: the word of God. Without pairing love (through the word) with that correction, the child will only see anger and pain. Parenting is more than just dressing your kid up for school everyday and giving them food. It is the life-long courage to say, ‘I am the authority and I must risk feeling uncomfortable and being unpopular to save my child from sure destruction.’ So we can take God out of the equation and blame all of our societal problems on spanking because it is the “IN” thing, but in another 10 or 20 years it will just be something else. If everyone would stop with political correctness and stop running away from the very one who has made us prosper, we would be the people that God created us to be. The government can’t make us better. We cannot even make us better, in ourselves. But we CAN allow God’s word to be our guideline, like it has been from the beginning. I know that not spanking seems very posh and hip but seeing your child in prison, on drugs, dead, or unfamiliar with the love of their savior is not very hip to me, but I forgot I have to be politically correct so I can’t say that… Do not spare discipline. Do not spare reproach. Most of all, do not spare LOVE. They may never thank you for it, but they will respect you for it. The ultimate and singular job of a parent is to promote life for their children. From beginning to end. Do you want life for yours? I know I do.