One of the things that I have really been praying for this year is restoration of relationships within my family. On BOTH sides. It breaks my heart to see so many members of my family at odds. Anger, jealousy, resentment, not talking to one another, and facades of friendliness masking feelings of ill-will and malcontent. It needs to END. Once “happy” family gatherings turned into awkward displays of false affection and interactions that turn into chores. Smiling to each others faces yet running behind backs [secretly] spreading (broadcasting) the latest fabrication in order to cause dissension. As a child, my naiveté did not afford me much insight into these matters but now, out of my childhood, I see that that “closeness” was more or less a disguise of the “adults” to hide the true childishness of these inane quibbles. I quickly and presently tire of the surface relationships. Of the inability to go deeper in conversation for apprehension of “saying the wrong thing” and starting another World War. Of the inability of anyone to really talk and address problems head on without it spreading to 3rd parties. How does that help you heal??? It needs to stop. The facades, the slanderous raconteur, and all of this has to stop. Nothing is so big that you should allow it to ruin your familial relationships. If someone in your family succeeds, praise them. If someone falls or fails, pick them up. If you have an issue, talk it out (with EACH OTHER only). Do not let these things go by unsaid, bottling them up inside, until the resentment grows, boils over, and comes out in your interactions with them. But in order for this to work all parties involved must have hearts that are open to the healing of the situation. The moment we allow our hearts to harden towards another is the moment that this relationship (and others) is doomed to destructive failure. Yes things happen and people hurt people. But the sooner we recognize that people disappoint but that God NEVER does, the sooner we can get over these “big” problems and realize just how minuscule they really are. We need to all remember 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 which says:
4 Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily. 5 It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God’s love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong]. 6 It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail. 7 Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening]. [Amp]
Love never fails. THIS is how families become close. THIS is how issues get resolved. Through Love. From my heart of hearts, I pray that God will really begin to show this simple truth to my family in a STRONG way. I love every single member of my family. Through every imperfection, every false smile, and every hurting heart, there is a human being in need of a true revelation of God’s unyielding and never ceasing love [for them]. A family TOGETHER can change a nation. This is why I am praying for restoration.